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Week 102 Winner « Thread Started on Jul 30, 2010, 10:23pm »
After I finished work today I dashed (sorry crawled in the traffic) over to Paignton to pick Carol up from work to take her to do her weekly shop, she has worked a fair few extra hours this week as she has been in charge all week of the care home she works at.
When we finally got indoors at 6pm after getting up at 4.50am this morning we both said how knackered and worn out we were and we agreed that it’s been a very hard week at work for the both of us.
Maybe after having a week of together last week where we did not have to get up so early is the reason this week has seemed so hard and demanding and one thing I do know is that if I ever win the lottery, you won’t find me saying I want to carry on working.
Is it really 40 years since I left school? Out of the 55 years I have lived, have I really done 40 years of hard labour and just when the end was insight, is it true they want to move the goalposts and keep me working even longer? I will be more than happy to finish work for good just as soon as I’m able to and enjoy being free to spend my days how I choose and there is no way I will ever get bored and crave to go back to work.
As far as I’m concerned having to go to work is just something I have to do and I have now got to the point where I feel is just a bloody intrusion in my life but I’m sure for Carol that is not the case and she looks at going to work in a completely different way.
For her its all about having things to do that play a very vital role in the real fight she has to face each and everyday and the thing is she loves all those old people she cares for and treats them all like they were her grand parents and that’s why on days like today when another one passed away, she got into our car with tears in her eyes.
If ever anyone were really unsure that we all die in the end, then my advice would be to go and work in a place like Carol works in and I’m sure each time one of the residents passes away, she thinks about her own situation and the fact she has to take each day as it comes.
I gave her such a big hug when we got indoors as I’m so very proud of her and the fact that she was able to take on such a big responsibility this week and did a very fine job indeed.
When I met her 18 years ago she was as quite as a mouse and had no self confidence and lacked any self esteem as she foolishly believed it must have been her fault the way the only two men she had ever had in her life treated her. NO it was not her fault, they simply took advantage of her wonderful giving nature and abused the trust she put in them to love and look after her as she deserved.
One of the things that has made me the happiest in my life, has been to see the changes in Carol since the first time I set eyes on her, back then she would have been first in the queue to be given the job in the back room and out of sight where she would not have had to deal with anyone else. This week it’s been her job to give out the pills to the residents, her job to meet with the doctors and health workers and to deal with all the relatives of those living in the home and she did it with confidence and with a smile on her face at all times.
Gone are the days when she let people walk all over her and now she is not afraid to speak up when there is a need for her to do so and I know while she would never say as much due to the fact its not in her nature to be boastful, she feels proud of herself and feels a real sense of achievement.
Yes being in a loving relationship where she knows she has someone to depend on, someone who is always going to be there for her and support her every inch of the way has played a big part in the changes Carol has made and in life they are the most important things we all need but not all are lucky enough to have.
We all have a part to play in everyone’s life we meet or even just talk too on a forum and we all have the power to make people feel worthwhile and worthy and we also have to power to destroy others by our words and actions. We have the power to make people happy and smile and we have to power to hurt them and make them cry.
I always do my best to treat others as I want to be treated myself, it’s the only way and while there will always be people who will treat us bad, is that any reason to feel we then have an excuse to do the same to others? As long as I run the TFF, I will always do my best to promote goodwill and encourage friendships as apposed to people ending up having bad feelings toward each other.
Its been a good week on the forum and the stats have been very pleasing reading indeed, Aussie sadly has gone too quite and it was great to see Kev posting in the week, we have missed him on here and I hope we will see much more of him now the new season is about to start.
On to this weeks winner and he really is a great family man and Carol and I had the pleasure of being treated out by him and his good lady for a meal with the whole family. He has treated us to many great pictures of his holiday in Scotland and I love seeing the latest pictures of the twins who anyone would fall in love with if they were ever lucky enough to meet them. Tell them you love dinosaurs and you will have two little friends for life.
This weeks winner is Stuartb, never thought he was ever going to win this award, but he fully deserves it if only for being such a good member and supporter of the TFF and someone I'm proud to call my friend .
well done Stuart.
As the best posts have contain lots of photos I won’t repost them on this thread, instead just click on his name and you can view all the posts he has made this week on the TFF
thank-you those who voted for me (I'm sure Merse didn't )
I'm not as wordy as some but I'm working on it and may surprise you all one day. i hope you enjoyed the pictures and there are some more to come, as much as i did taking them.
thank-you those who voted for me (I'm sure Merse didn't )
I didn't either but a worthy winner. You were doing my head in with all those glens and castles, nearly as bad as Dave with his pubs! Seriously though well done and I have enjoyed your recent reports from the colonies
Out of the 55 years I have lived, have I really done 40 years of hard labour and just when the end was insight, is it true they want to move the goalposts and keep me working even longer? I will be more than happy to finish work for good just as soon as I’m able to and enjoy being free to spend my days how I choose and there is no way I will ever get bored and crave to go back to work.
I feel exactly the same as you Dave. Like you, I have worked extremely hard and for long hours for forty years and then when I fell to a serious health issue four months ago; what I felt had already become a very difficult position due to the recession, all of a sudden became a catastrophic one.
I have already documented how my work provider never so much as batted an eyelid when I had to give up driving, making not a single enquiry as to my health or financial situation. Now four months later, I have received the news that the DoE regard me as "fit for work" without so much as a medical or referral to the FACT that I am still under hospital investigation and signed off by my GP until September 12th. An instant termination of my Income Support from them and of our housing benefit from the local council and an "invitation" to apply for Job Seekers Allowance and re-apply for Housing Benefit with fresh documentary evidence.......................hardly the stuff of Cameron's (propped up by Clegg) "Big Society" is it?
To compound matters, on my way home from the Job Centre this morning I became embroiled in a confrontation with "someone" intent on invading my personal space and damaging my personal property and ended up in the police cells for 8 hours having restrained that person for over 20 minutes, using what I maintained was reasonable force; whilst the police were called at my instigation.
Result? Arrested and charged with Assault Occasioning Actual Bodily Harm, taken to Tolpuddle Street Police Station (how apt for a Westcountry Socialist!), photographed, fingerprinted and DNA tested.
Conclusion? "Charge" subsequently amended to "Common Assault" and then eventually released without any further action being taken by the Police.
The first time I have been banged up in a police cell, and to be honest quite an "interesting experience" sharing the custody suite with drug addicts, street girls and hearing the abuse and banging coming from down the long corridor I was destined to be taken before going into that cell ~ just a strip light and sky light, not one window; a marble slab to lie on (practice run for the morgue?) with a hard mattress and equally hard pillow to lay my head on as I stared at the ceiling and contemplated life.....................at least I got a free lunch though!
I'm going to bed now..................the missus has decided I'm Public Enemy no 1 and pissed off to her sister's with the kids. Every bone in my body feels like it's been smashed, my body like it's been trampled on by an elephant; and I feel very sorry for myself and am hardly looking forward to the future.
I'm very saddened to read your post merse and the terrible events going on in your life at this time and there was I just thinking I might have upset you and that was the reason you had not been on the forum all day.
Sadly its the hard workers who played by the rules all their lives who do not get the help and support when they need it and you have not chosen to give up work but were forced to for health reasons.
Its no surprise it was you who got locked up for eight hours in this crazy world we now live in where its the victim who ends up on the receiving end and the real offender gets the full protection due to his human rights and its time things went back to how they once were and the offenders getting what they deserve.
I'm sure the good lady will calm down and realise whats going on is beyond your control and will not forget how hard you did work when you were able and all the meals you did put on the table.
You have been such a good friend to so many in your life and I'm sure they will be there for you now you may need them. It might look so very dark now and I know all about dark places believe me, don't give up Merse and don't ever believe there is no future because there is and as I found out there is always a light at the end of ever tunnel, only you may not see it just yet.
You have my number and I will always have the time if you ever need a chat or just someone who you can let off some steam with.
I'm very sure things will look a whole lot better very soon merse and my thoughts and hopes that things will improve soon for you and your family are with you.
Out of the 55 years I have lived, have I really done 40 years of hard labour and just when the end was insight, is it true they want to move the goalposts and keep me working even longer? I will be more than happy to finish work for good just as soon as I’m able to and enjoy being free to spend my days how I choose and there is no way I will ever get bored and crave to go back to work.
To compound matters, on my way home from the Job Centre this morning I became embroiled in a confrontation with "someone" intent on invading my personal space and damaging my personal property and ended up in the police cells for 8 hours having restrained that person for over 20 minutes, using what I maintained was reasonable force; whilst the police were called at my instigation. Result? Arrested and charged with Assault Occasioning Actual Bodily Harm, taken to Tolpuddle Street Police Station (how apt for a Westcountry Socialist!), photographed, fingerprinted and DNA tested. Conclusion? "Charge" subsequently amended to "Common Assault" and then eventually released without any further action being taken by the Police.
If it were me today would be the start of a probably long running forthright exchange of views with the Commissioner! Free legal advice and a few bob compensation for false imprisonment also suggests itself.
As an aside I have just read in the news that the Science Museum have discovered that the brains of London taxi drivers are different than the rest of us! Probably something we always suspected but apparently it's because of all that work they have to do to get a licence in the first place which considerably boosts their memory. Merse produces plenty of evidence of that on a daily basis on here (did Barton ever drive London cabs? ).
I hope Merse that the second half of this year is a lot better for you than the first half.
Thanks for the kind thoughts and offers of advice Dave and Stefano.
Perhaps that legendary "taxi driver's memory" could do with being a little less comprehensive right now, I feel like I need to rest and recuperate right now and don't really want to expand any further on yesterday's events ~ it's causing enough family grief as it is.
Its been a good week on the forum and the stats have been very pleasing reading indeed, Aussie sadly has gone too quite and it was great to see Kev posting in the week, we have missed him on here and I hope we will see much more of him now the new season is about to start.
I`m trying to work out how to yell in a text based format but still can`t manage it so I started a thread in the popside to practice!
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I feel exactly the same as you Dave. Like you, I have worked extremely hard and for long hours for forty years and then when I fell to a serious health issue four months ago; what I felt had already become a very difficult position due to the recession, all of a sudden became a catastrophic one.
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